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BԪַA Mothers CryBԪַ heard across B.C.BԪַs northwest captures the pain of separation and loss

Hallowed NisgaBԪַa song shares the anguish of stolen children and mothersBԪַ arms left empty
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Cam Haines is seen at Salmon Fest in June 2022. She wrote the NisgaBԪַa song in the late 1980s to memorialize the trauma and history of children stolen from their motherBԪַs arms and sent to residential school. (Photo: K-J Millar/The Northern View)

BԪַHelp me, Help me. TheyBԪַve taken my children away. Oh, my poor heart. My poor broken heart, theyBԪַve taken my children away.BԪַ

BԪַA MotherBԪַs CryBԪַ, the revered song of northwestern B.C.BԪַs NisgaBԪַa people so effectively orates the anguish of empty-armed mothers as their children were stolen that counsellors and community supports are made available after each performance.

The song was written more than 30 years ago by Camilla Haines, a residential school survivor born into the Gitxsan nation and married into the NisgaBԪַa Nation.

She wrote it to chronicle the heartache felt across First Nations communities as their children were taken and placed into the residential school system, where many eventually lost their way to the demons of substance abuse, alcoholism, self-harm, stolen culture and identity loss.

BԪַThe parents couldnBԪַt do anything. So I based the song on the fact of the poor motherBԪַs cries,BԪַ Haines said.

The solemn song starts with a heart-wrenching motherBԪַs plea. The accompanying dance personifies priests in long black robes wrenching children from their motherBԪַs and taking them away.

Haines said that when she wrote the song, her motherBԪַs face was prominent in her vision.

An image cemented in her memory and clutched in the sanctum of her being is that of her mother standing on the pier, alone in silent sorrow watching a steamship carry three of her children across the water. The other parents, grieving in their own ways had left the dock, but Haines said she and her brothers stood at the shipBԪַs railing, watching their mother watching them until they could see each other no more.

Haines was on the younger end of 12 siblings. Her older siblings had been taken to a residential school in Edmonton. She was 10 when she was taken with her brothers, 12 and 14, to a residential school in Port Alberni.

BԪַYou know, it would have been really hard on my mother because it was three of us at the same time, and then just my younger sister would have been at home with her.BԪַ

She canBԪַt remember what she was told about going away, but she does remember the unconquerable sea-sickness that laid her flat during the entire voyage and the kindly shipBԪַs purser who tried to help her because the person who was supposed to be BԪַsupervisingBԪַ her made no effort to check-in.

She said there were many children on the steamer coming from Hazelton, the Nass Valley, Haida Gwaii, and Lax KwBԪַalaams.

BԪַWhat they did back in those days, the government threatened BԪַ they threatened [parents] that if they ever needed help they wouldnBԪַt help them at all BԪַ Some of them, they even threatened they would throw them in jail if they didnBԪַt let their kids go,BԪַ she said.

BԪַParents just accepted the way things were.BԪַ

Not everyone was treated or abused equally at the Port Alberni school. She doesnBԪַt know why. Maybe it was because she had already been in Indian Day school for four years and knew English.

BԪַI myself didnBԪַt suffer the abuses that some did. But I knew of a girl getting abused. There wasnBԪַt anything we could do about it.BԪַ

She was allowed home for the summers where she looked after younger children while their parents worked.

When she was 17 and realized she was not going to graduate, she approached the principal with the idea of attending secretarial school. He assisted, and she moved to a girlsBԪַ group home in Vancouver. Soon after, she married a NisgaBԪַa man and they eventually returned to the north.

Moving to the city is what many residential school survivors did, she said because they had lost any connection with their culture. This exodus is described in BԪַA MotherBԪַs Cry.BԪַ

While a literal translation of the song written in NisgaBԪַa is difficult, Cam explained some of the lyrics.

BԪַCome with me, Come with me to see my grandfather. Come with me. Come with me to see my grandmother,BԪַ relates to the children relearning the traditions and taking the stolen culture back.

BԪַWe will be OK. We will find them. We will bring them home,BԪַ speaks to parents and elders journeying to the cities to find the lost.

The final crescendo of the song celebrates how the lost have been found, returned to their families and are entwining themselves in their lineage and heritage.

Cam wrote the song while she held a position on the Anglican Council for Indigenous People (AICP) in the late BԪַ80s.

BԪַIBԪַd hear all the horror stories from people all around Canada and what they went through. It would just affect me hearing all this. So finally, one year I said I have to write a song about this.BԪַ

She took the song to her husbandBԪַs aunt and uncle who were fluent in NisgaBԪַa and assisted with translation. The song has been held in such solemn esteem it was deemed BԪַsacredBԪַ and only GitmaxmakBԪַay NisgaBԪַa Society dancers were granted permission to perform it.

Photographing or videoing any performance was strictly prohibited until recently. Cam said she made the change to assist with the truth and bring reconciliation.

BԪַAt first the people in the Nass hated it because it brought so much BԪַ emotion back to them. But then they accepted it. Now there are villages that have dance groups, and theyBԪַve done similar things because itBԪַs all a part of our history.BԪַ

She said all songs fade away eventually, and itBԪַs now up to the second and third generations to keep it alive.

BԪַIBԪַve always told them that this is part of our history. You know, itBԪַs emotional, but it happened. So, the story still needs to be told.BԪַ


K-J Millar | Editor and Multimedia Journalist
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