- Words Toby Tannas  Photography Lia Crowe

Jaime Morgan is someone who catches your eye in the bustle of a busy coffee shop. Her warm smile greets me as I approach. She exudes happiness, which is why I am beyond curious to hear about the new career that has her lit up from inside.

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Jaime is now happily married to partner Justin. Through the lens of social media their relationship looks fun, passionate and easy. It is all those things (most of the time), but, she shares, there is a lot of intentional work that goes on daily to maintain it.

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Jaime credits The Gottman Method (TGM) for transforming her relationship with herself and then eventually with the man she loves. Simply put, TGM provides tools to build and maintain a healthy relationship. It was so beneficial to Jaime that she became certified as a Gottman coach.

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TGM was developed from real people. Researchers studied the behaviors and actions of couples in successful relationships. Based on that, very specific guidelines were developed to show people how to shift their relationships.

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Jaime breaks it down for clients into the three CB次元官网网址檚: communication, conflict resolution and connection.

Starting with communication, Jaime teaches her clients that itB次元官网网址檚 about more than just talking. Listening, really hearing your partner and giving them a safe space to share how they feel are vital.

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When it comes to those inevitable arguments, Jaime coaches her clients to put conflicts into one of two categories.

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Because perpetual conflicts are ongoing, relationships become about managing them. Coaching a couple on how to effectively navigate arguments is extremely satisfying to Jaime.

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JaimeB次元官网网址檚 coaching focuses on the here and now. Unlike other therapies, she doesnB次元官网网址檛 take a deep dive into the past.

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Jaime acknowledges that doing the work is tough, but says there are huge rewards when you choose to invest in yourself and your relationship. It often means taking a long, hard look in the mirror.

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Alongside working with couples, Jaime has many personal-growth clients who arenB次元官网网址檛 currently in relationships but are doing the work on themselves.

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Jaime is herself a shining example of TGM success. As she guides others through personal and relationship growth, she and her husband, Justin, are doing the work too.

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As we wrap up our coffee shop conversation, I decide I canB次元官网网址檛 leave without asking for some free advice. Here are three things Jaime says you can start doing today to improve communication, manage conflict and foster connection in your relationship.

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Take a time out: When a discussion or situation is getting heated, give yourself and your partner the gift of a break. Make it clear that you will re-visit the issue later. Nothing good happens when you are in fight or flight mode.

Own your stuff: Be able to recognize when youB次元官网网址檙e in that blame zone and youB次元官网网址檙e pointing a finger at your partner. Use that as a cue to look inward to see what you can do to make the situation better.

Find out more about Jaime Morgan Relationship and Personal Growth Coaching on Instagram @thejaimemorgan and at

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