In a corner of a park in Metro Vancouver, the hunt for marital bliss is on.
Groups of middle-aged and elderly Chinese pass around their smartphones or photos plucked from wallets, smiling and nodding their greetings before getting down to business.
Do you have a daughter or a son? How old are they? Where did they go to university? Where do they work? And perhaps most importantly BԪַ why are they still single?
Central Park in Burnaby, has become a matchmaking corner for parents, replicating a phenomenon seen in some cities in China.
On the weekend before ValentineBԪַs Day, there were 20 to 30 parents mingling. Organizer Terry Wang says in summer, there are more than 100.
The park is where magic happens, says Wang, BԪַif you come here believing in the power of love.BԪַ
Wang said in a Mandarin interview that he has been running the BԪַoff-line dating siteBԪַ since last summer. He said it gained in popularity among Chinese parents over the past few months and had a high rate of matchmaking success.
BԪַSome parents are frequent visitors of the matchmaking corner and then one day they stop showing up and later they invite me to their childrenBԪַs weddings,BԪַ laughed Wang. He said he finds the process BԪַblissful and rewarding.BԪַ
Wang said the corner grew from an online discussion group among more than 300 Chinese immigrants who were either looking for a match for their children or for themselves.
BԪַMany Chinese parents and their children feel their social circle is a bit small and they hope to connect with more like-minded people in Metro Vancouver. The corner serves as a bridge,BԪַ said Wang.
Meet-ups also take place on Sundays and Thursdays at a shopping mall in Richmond, south of Vancouver.
Wang said he had a personal interest in organizing the gatherings. His daughter is about to turn 26 and he visits the Burnaby corner weekly in the hope of finding her a husband.
BԪַI am not too worried, but now itBԪַs time for her to start dating,BԪַ he said.
Wang said the idea for the matchmaking corner came from an experience in the province of Henan, in central China, where he came across a BԪַdating marketBԪַ with parents introducing their children to each other.
Yue Qian, an associate professor of sociology at the University of British Columbia, said it was the first time she had heard of a matchmaking corner in Canada. But she said she wasnBԪַt surprised since similar sites are popular in some cities in China, including Shanghai and Beijing.
At a well-known matchmaking corner in ShanghaiBԪַs PeopleBԪַs Park, Chinese parents gather and display placards listing their childrenBԪַs attributes in the hope of finding a good match.
BԪַIn my research, many Chinese immigrants in Vancouver found the place to be isolated and difficult to even find a friend,BԪַ said Qian.
Compared with western society, which values BԪַindividuality,BԪַ Qian said Chinese or Asian culture can be more BԪַfamily-orientedBԪַ and under such settings, getting married or not isnBԪַt just an issue for the children but also their parents.
BԪַSome of the studies suggest that for children who havenBԪַt got married at a certain age, their parents in China are more likely to have depression and low mental health,BԪַ said Qian.
She added that stigma also exists around children who havenBԪַt married by a certain age.
However, Qian said she thinks parents should sometimes step back and let their children take control of their relationships.
BԪַThey need to respect the childrenBԪַs decisions rather than imposing (their) will on their children.BԪַ
Wang agreed, saying falling in love is a personal thing. What parents can do is introduce potential candidates.
BԪַFor parents who come to the matchmaking corner, they have gained support from their children and what parents can do is build the bridge, but their children will decide whether they want to cross it or not.BԪַ
Wang, a self-employed businessman who writes romantic poetry as a hobby, said he thinks love is the purest thing on earth.
BԪַWhat is love? It touches everyone, no matter whether you are rich or poor. Many successful people conquer the world easily with money, power, and respect in hand. But they might not be able to find true love,BԪַ said Wang.
BԪַLove has no boundary, please join us if you believe in love.BԪַ
BԪַNono Shen, The Canadian Press