This is part 2 of 3 in a series in which the Goldstream B次元官网网址 Gazette looks at the effect childhood cancer has on a family, from the devastating diagnosis to the financial and emotional hardships that follow. We also take a look at where families can get help, and the special relationships that form between health--care professionals and families.
Three years ago, Noreen BekropoulosB次元官网网址檚 family was plunged into the chaos of cancer treatment when her 13-year-old son, the youngest of five siblings, was diagnosed with Hodgkins lymphoma.
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This frantic whirlwind of activity is all too common, with families being uprooted and everything put on hold while a treatment plan is sorted out.
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Families can be fractured by a diagnosis of childhood cancer, by the incredible financial strain and by the destruction of any sense of normalcy in their day to day lives.
Emotional support is vital for the whole family, says Bekropoulos, and connecting with other parents can be a lifeline.
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The coupons and vouchers that were pressed into BekropoulosB次元官网网址檚 hands as she boarded the helicopter came from the Family Support Program, though she knew barely anything about the organization at the time.
Her whole family, including the son in active treatment B次元官网网址 now 17, he asked that his name not be used for this story, nor any photos B次元官网网址 were also able to participate in a WildPlay romp. ItB次元官网网址檚 one of many sponsored outdoor adventures that help kids just be kids for an afternoon and leave behind the hospital for a few hours.
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She urges any family going through childhood cancer to contact the organization immediately.
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