Looking for love in the 21st century has advanced beyond going to a bar and getting someoneB次元官网网址檚 phone number.
While match-making or going to a bar to meet people were tried-and-true methods in the past, Jerry Hinbest, a Vancouver Island University sociology professor, said the growth of the online world has changed romantic pursuits.
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An example of looking for love in contemporary times occurred when Vancouver Island Ferry Company hosted a speed-dating event on one of its Hullo ferries last week. Caitlyn Santos, a participant from Vancouver, said she likes doing B次元官网网址渘ovel and weird things,B次元官网网址� and said speed dating is an ideal way to date.
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Claudia Bastien, from Squamish, has tried online dating, but itB次元官网网址檚 not her cup of tea.
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Brendan Milholm, from Nanaimo, is used to the more traditional style of dating, and hasnB次元官网网址檛 tried online dating. This monthB次元官网网址檚 Hullo ferry event was his first time speed dating and he liked the fact there were people from different places and B次元官网网址渋t was quick.B次元官网网址�
Milholm was even able to get a couple of phone numbers from people from the mainland. He would try speed dating again, he said.
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The VIU prof Hinbest says that dating in the digital age isnB次元官网网址檛 without problems, with concerns about algorithms and online surveillance. People are also leery, he said, as what they see might not be what theyB次元官网网址檙e getting.
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Hinbest, who met his wife on a blind date, said in a sense, dating apps are blind dates as well.
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